1. Both parents have a right to have a relationship with their child, and a child has a right to have a relationship with both parents. Usually it is best for the child if both parents can agree about custody and partial custody. If you cannot agree and a custody complaint is filed, you will be leaving it up to a judge to decide what he or she believes is in the child’s best interest.
2. Child support and custody are two separate issues. If the other parent fails to pay support, you may not refuse to allow contact by that parent with the child. Likewise, if the other parent refuses to allow contact, you may not stop paying support.
3. A written agreement concerning custody, even if notarized, cannot be enforced by the police. If you reach an agreement for custody, we strongly urge you to get your custody agreement made into a court order. Contact our agency to see if we can help you do this. Also, if you leave the child with the other parent, a grandparent, or another third party on a “temporary” basis, even if you clearly state this in a written agreement, you may lose custody if the other party changes his or her mind and takes you to court to obtain custody. This is because courts value stability in a child’s life, and will not disturb a child's living arrangement if the child is doing well in his or her current situation.
4. Sometimes taking no legal action to have custody and partial custody decided is best. If there are no problems agreeing on custody and partial custody, no threats to take the child, or no attempts to visit the child in a while, there should be no reason to file a custody complaint. Since the court will most likely give the other parent liberal periods of time with the child, such as every other weekend, holidays and a period of time in the summer, it may be better for you and your child to simply keep the current arrangement. If the other parent is unhappy, they may file a petition to change the present schedule.
5. If someone files a custody action against you or you are thinking about doing so, you need to know that, under most circumstances, the case must be brought in the county where the child has resided for the last six months. However, you may file in a county where the child is residing even if not for the last six months if you can show that the other county is inconvenient, i.e., neither party nor child resides there, or it is in the child’s best interests that the matter be heard there. If the other parent has filed a custody action against you and the child has not lived in the county where the case was brought for at least six months you should obtain legal help to object to the case being heard in that county.
6. Please note that if you are sued for custody/partial custody and an attorney represents the other party, call Northwestern Legal Services to see if we can represent you.
7. It is up to each party to obey the custody order that you receive after your conference/hearing. If the other parent is not following the order, you should keep track of the incidents and notify the parent in writing that you expect them to obey the order. If the violations of the order are serious, such as the other parent refusing to bring the child back after a visit, or not allowing you the visits that the order gives you, you may file a petition for civil contempt. Contact us for help if this happens. If the violations of the order are not serious, but are still a problem, it may be better to contact your county’s custody office or family law judge to explore alternatives to a court battle. Some counties have custody conciliators who will meet with both parties and try to mediate the problems.
8. Sometimes circumstances change that require a modification to the custody/partial custody order. If the changes are occasional, like changing a weekend visit so the other parent can take the child to a family reunion, you do not need to have the order changed if you and the other parent agree. If the changes would affect the ability of a parent to see the child under the terms of the current order, such as one parent wants to move out of state, then a petition to modify the custody order must be filed with the court.
9. Separated parents have automatic standing to request legal and physical custody of their child from the court in case of a dispute with the other parent. Third parties, such as an aunt or close family friend must prove special circumstances in order to obtain the right, called ‘standing,’ to seek court ordered custody rights. There are two situations in which third parties can seek standing (grandparents have additional options to establish standing described in our pamphlet on grandparent custody rights).
This first is to convince the court that they are in loco parentis (in place of the parent) to the child. In loco parentis status can be sought to obtain standing when a third party has assumed physical custody of and then acted as a child’s primary caregiver for a substantial period of time. However, this cannot be done in defiance of a parent’s wishes and the parent/child relationship. There is no set time period provided by law for in loco parentis status to be conferred by a court. Please note that if, in addition to the third party, the parent is also involved in the care of the child, in loco parentis cannot be used to establish standing to seek a custody order.
The second possible way for a third party to establish standing is provided by the Pennsylvania custody statute when the following three part test is met:
a). The third party has assumed or is willing to assume physical custody of the child; and
b.) The third party has a sustained, substantial and sincere interest in the welfare of the child. The court will look at the nature of the involvement of the third party with the child in making a determination as to this factor; and
c.) Neither parent currently has any form of care or control over the child.
Once standing is established, the court must decide if it would be in the best interests of the child for the third party to have physical and, in some cases, legal custody rights and, if so, what those rights should be. To help the court make a decision it must consider certain ‘factors’ which can be summarized as follows as they relate to third parties:
a.) The extent and quality of the relationship between the third party and the child;
b.) Whether the third party is likely to interfere with the parental relationship or try to alienate the child from the parents;
c.) The mental and physical ability of the third party to care for the child;
d.) Any history of drug/alcohol or other abusive habits and/or conduct;
e.) The travel distance from the third party’s home to that of the child’s parents and other family members;
f.) The actual availability of the third party to care for the child and their ability to provide for the child’s needs;
g.) The impact on sibling relationships of the child;
h.) The preferences of the child.
i.) Any other relevant factor.